Reignite Your Love, Rebuild Your Bond
Soni Dani-Cox, LMFT
Restoration for Couples Inc. holds Intensives that are personalized retreats & a powerful way for couples to reconnect, even after a significant rupture. Intensives effectively jumpstart the healing process and get couples to a place that would otherwise take 3-6 months.
Most distressed couples find weekly sessions inadequate for addressing their situation. The change process is too slow. Often the work is just getting started, and the session is over. This is especially true for couples at a significant juncture due to an affair, addiction, or other major rupture.
During Intensives, there is a luxury of time to stay immersed in relational growth. Having “all the time in the world” enhances our present-moment awareness and speeds up quantum change.
Intensives are a powerful way to step away from everyday stresses and distractions temporarily. There is a focus & intensity to immersive learning that shifts established patterns and will allow couples to claim a new future together. An intensive will give you a visceral understanding of what is needed to live in connection and deep partnership.
WHICH COUPLES SHOULD CONSIDER DOING AN INTENSIVE?
- If you are in a crisis – but both partners want to try to make it work.
- If you are stuck in a negative interactive pattern and just can’t seem to stop fighting.
- If you feel distant, like roommates, and do not know how to be close again.
- If you just cannot make weekly counseling work with demanding schedules and/or the childcare shuffle.
- If you are a current client and you are realizing weekly sessions are not realistic.
- If you are a therapist and need anonymity, you are coming from out of town.
- If you would like to block time out of your daily life AND restore your marriage.
Intensives are not for every couple. As you consider an intensive – please keep these things in mind:
- Couples in which one or both partners have an active addiction are not candidates for the intensive.
- If there is an ongoing affair – an intensive (or any couple therapy) is not an option.
- If you and your partner do not have the same goal for therapy, this is not a good format for you. In other words, if one partner wants to work on the marriage and the other does not – an intensive is not the place to decide if you want to work on the marriage. When a couple has the same goal, an intensive can be extremely rewarding.
- If being in the same room for a long time is intensely triggering (a potential trauma reaction) or you have not been able to be in the same space without being civil for a while- this format will not be productive.
- If there is active intimate partner violence, this (or any couple therapy) is not an option. Please visit this site for more information about intimate partner violence.
If after reading this information, you are unsure if you are a good fit for the intensive, please call (714) 455-9904 or email email@example.com. We are happy to help assess if this is a suitable time for you to engage in this format of counseling. If it is not, we are also happy to help you find resources for you.
If you are coming from out of town, all ethical and legal guidelines for providing services are under my license in the state of California (including but not limited to HIPAA, confidentiality, reporting abuse, etc.). Allegations or evidence of abuse are to be reported both in the state where you reside and in CA (where services are provided). For virtual intensives, you will have to reside in CA. As with any psychotherapy, results are not guaranteed.
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